Kids & Anger Archives - Nicole Schwarz, LMFT

When Kids Get Aggressive: A Guide For Parents

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 11:38:28 +0000

Parenting a child who hits, kicks, bites, or hurts others can feel overwhelming and confusing. This guide will give you an overview of how to support your child when they are aggressive, and help them learn how to manage their big feelings without aggression. “How can we get our 5-year-old to stop hitting?” “My three-year-old kicks me, sometimes without warning!” “I can’t leave my twins

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Three Things to do When Your Child is in the Middle of a Huge Meltdown

nicoleschwarz — Fri, 08 Oct 2021 19:15:10 +0000

Big emotions can be scary, overwhelming, and stressful for parents (and for kids!). Use these three tips to parent with a calm confidence during your child’s next meltdown. She stands in the kitchen screaming. Hands clenched at her sides. Eyes focused and glaring. You try everything – offering a hug, yelling “settle down,” sending her to her room, taking away screen time – nothing helps.

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How to prepare for your child’s next high-intensity meltdown

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 30 Apr 2018 10:38:39 +0000

How to Prepare for Your Intense Child’s Next Meltdown Glancing at the clock, you mentally cross your fingers. You’re parenting alone tonight and your energy is running low. It would be great if your child made it to bedtime without a meltdown. For your sake. For your other children’s sake. You know he can’t help it. Some nights are just harder than others. He’s learning

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How to help your tantruming child calm down

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 24 Jul 2017 10:15:21 +0000

You’ve tried everything but nothing seems to help your tantruming child settle down. Anger and frustration over “little” things can sometimes last an hour (or more!). These tips will help you stay present and positive with your child, even when they don’t calm down immediately. You give your child one more reminder, “Turn off the iPad, please.” And that’s all it takes. He’s off like

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Raise a kid who can cope with challenges

Guest Author — Mon, 17 Jul 2017 14:44:20 +0000

Thanks to Janine Halloran for this guest post, check out her bio for links to some fantastic coping resources for kids! What images spring to mind when you hear the word “childhood”? When I first think of childhood, I imagine running through sprinklers on a hot summer day, giggles in a pillow fort while reading a silly book, or blowing bubbles in the backyard. These

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5 hidden messages in your intense child’s words (and how to respond)

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 06 Feb 2017 11:48:49 +0000

The kicking on the back of your seat is getting more intense. “That’s enough!” you say, glancing at the grimacing face in the back seat. “You can’t make me!” she responds, kicking harder now. Your muscles tense. You hold your breath. You want to scream, “Oh, I can too make you stop. Don’t tempt me.” But you don’t. You know it will only make things

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10 Ways to Reduce Sibling Rivalry in Your Home

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 11 Apr 2016 10:15:14 +0000

Your daughter crawls over and takes your son’s toy car. He freaks out. Grabbing the car back from the baby. She starts to cry. You swoop in to intervene. Cradling her while you glare at your son, you say, “She’s just a baby. She doesn’t know better.” Setting your daughter on the floor, you grab a few of his cars. Again he protests. “You need

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How to Manage Toddler Tantrums

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 27 Jul 2015 10:55:31 +0000

The car seat never used to be a problem. You’d plop your infant into the seat, and away you’d go. Suddenly, going anywhere in the car means that you’ll first have to endure an epic toddler tantrum. What happened? Where did your sweet little baby go? Toddler tantrums can start much earlier than parents expect. It seems that as soon as your child realizes

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What You Need to Know About Setting Limits Without A Power Struggle

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 08 Jun 2015 10:55:14 +0000

Turning off the Ipad, getting dressed, taking out the trash…if power struggles are a daily occurrence in your home, it’s time to try something new. These step-by-step scripts will help you use positive parenting when setting limits (they even with strong-willed kids!). Wouldn’t it be nice if your kids just did what they were told, when they were told, without all of the power struggles?

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How to Respond When Your Child is Disrespectful

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 18 May 2015 11:41:03 +0000

The playdate is over. It is time to head home. You gave a 5-minute warning. You expect everything to go well. Suddenly, it happens. Your child responds disrespectfully. “No! I don’t want to go! You never let me do anything fun!” You feel the anger rising inside you. You yell back, “How dare you talk to me like that!” He continues, “You didn’t even send

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