I agree this is so hard for you! My young grandson has started school this year and is very good at school which he seems to enjoy – but it is a real strain on his emotional resources and he does not have good impulse control even at home so a lot of aspects of school routine must cause him extreme difficulty ( for instance he is very focused on whatever he is doing and hates to be interrupted or moved to a new task – which does not fit very well with school curriculum and schedules) He has exactly these reactions as soon as he gets home from school and needs to ride around on his bike for about an hour until he is able to come inside and be calm enough to relate to his family and his little brother. He does not have a diagnosis – but needs a lot of empathy and sensitivity, especially on school days. I am sure school is very stressful for any child on the autism spectrum and many others like my 6yo grandson as well. After the school sessions find any activity your son likes or that gives him space to unwind, so he can regain his sense of control over his life from his safe place at home. And do connect with others who have similar challenges and seek as much support as you can for yourself as well!

Hello, I can understand why you might think that, and have the relevant education to support your belief, but sometimes we need to start as we intend to go forward. If we establish a game of ‘power struggle’ then the future years will continue to play by those rules. Nicole raises some very valid points; as a parent when your child is misbehaving, no matter how humiliated you may feel in public, it is always best to diffuse then revisit with a calm demeanor. If my child misbehaves, which she rarely does unless she is tired or hungry, I let her have her small ‘victory’. This doesn’t mean giving in, it means walking away and allowing her to diffuse then examine her own actions. As soon as she is calm, we talk through the situation and we explain how her actions affected others around her and we agree on consequences which fit the situation. She is able to process and feel empowered to make better decisions ‘for herself’ in the future. She is 6 and we have had 2 incidents – both of them fairly trivial. I hope when she is older this will allow her to manage her behaviour without needing me to make behavioral decisions for her.

thank you
maria

When a child is angry, you need to remain calm. Keep telling yourself something like “This behavior is not bothering me.” Have more time ham one way to change the situation. Perhaps telling them that you will help them pack or carry things before you go to the car will help. Sometimes having a race to a spot in front of the car will work. Just remember to stop them before they get to the street or run faster than they do.

Keep the disrespecting student close to you while you teach the others. Give them attention when they are on task and allowing others to talk also.

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