Comments on: Why your kids need you to step-up (but it’s not what you think)

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By: Nicole Schwarz

Nicole Schwarz — Wed, 20 Sep 2017 19:30:03 +0000

In reply to Natalia.

This post may give you some pointers: 10 tips for parenting a 2-year-old

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By: Natalia

Natalia — Fri, 14 Jul 2017 22:03:58 +0000

In reply to Nicole Schwarz.

Thanks for this post! My son has just turned 1. I bougt and started reading dr. Lapointe book when he was about 9months. This was when I realised that is not his colics, nor teeth, but his strong caracter I will have to deal with. He is so stubborn, intense, true drama king and has so many tantrums/meltdowns every day. He is not easy sleeper, nor easy to breastfeed, he doesn’t like standard baby toys, instead he loves vacuum cleaner, washing mashine, diswasher, cars, trucks… especially if real ones. He loves climbing in and up to this appliances and throws a tantrum if I have to remove him away.
It is so difficult for me every day. He wants me 100% all the time (I can’t read, be on PC/phone etc. when he is awake), but as as mum you have too cook, wash, clean too. Sometimes I am so lost and don’t know what to do anymore.
So my question is… kids at 1 year don’t understand and you can’t have conversation with them about their meltdowns and about why they are not allowed to do sth. So what technique should I use instead for a 1 year?
Thank you so much for your answer.

By: Nicole Schwarz

Nicole Schwarz — Thu, 26 May 2016 03:22:41 +0000

In reply to Jessica. Yes! That description fits one of my kids too! It is so challenging, I'm glad you found some encouragement here.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 24 May 2016 23:50:45 +0000

This is amazing and just what I needed!! I have 3 kids who will turn 3, 5, and 7 this summer. My girls (ages 3 and 7) are very compliant, easy going kids. Rarely, do I have an issue with them. My 5 year old son however is VERY strong willed. He is passionate, intentional, intense, argumentative and such a perfectionist. I have cried many tears(not in front of him) trying to fight the whining, complaining, fits and arguments. He loves hard and is a joyful child most of the time but I feel I always have to be “on”. Does that make sense? This post has been so encouraging and gives me hope for new ideas and techniques. Thank you!!

By: Brandy

Brandy — Tue, 03 May 2016 01:39:08 +0000

From my experience, what you wrote about kids wanting us to be in charge, is correct. Kids seem to grow best and learn lessons from life when there are set boundaries that the children understand. They thrive in this type of environment. Thanks for sharing your insights!

By: Napoleon Nalcot

Napoleon Nalcot — Mon, 02 May 2016 23:48:54 +0000

Great article. Both the parent and child should be learning to express their disagreement or differences in a dialogue. Once they start to talk about it sincerely and to try to do something about it, it does not only resolve an issue but deepening the bond between parent and child as well.