This post may be helpful: How to respond in “non-negotiable” situations

This can be tricky! If it turns into a power struggle, it’s not going to solve the problem. But, if they’re used to the idea and are usually compliant, it’s probably worth a try!

Here’s a post on picky eaters that has some other suggestions too.

About the peas, could you also offer that they eat at least part of them? I used to (and still do) tell my boys, “Just three more bites…” or something along that line. Sometimes that will jumpstart them into eating all of them, sometimes it is just three bites. We all want our kids to eat healthy and like vegetables, etc. but as an adult there are vegetables that I don’t like. What is a good balance? Is giving them this alternative okay?

Hi! Our kids don’t need to agree with us or see our side of the argument. In fact, it’s pretty rare to hear a kid say, “you’re right, mom, I get what you’re trying to say.” It is ok for them to feel disappointed or frustrated when we set a limit. Rather than trying to get them to see our side of the argument, we need to support them with empathy and offer to help them cope.

You might be surprised! Finding a middle ground is actually a skill that smart children can learn and use well. Especially if you’re flexible and not focused on winning.

Wow, so much heartbreak and so many changes over the past year. I would suggest finding a child therapist in your area. (Ideally, someone who works with children and grief/loss or family medical issues) You can search Psychology Today or Good Therapy for therapists or ask your pediatrician for recommendations.