Comments on: The Day I Forgot How to Parent (And the Two Words that Brought Me Back) https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/ Parent Coach for Imperfect Families Thu, 15 Sep 2016 19:15:45 +0000 hourly 1 By: Nicole Schwarz https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-23221 Thu, 15 Sep 2016 19:15:45 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-23221 In reply to KM.

I am definitely not saying parents should “beat themselves up” about anything! We are all doing the best we can to figure out this parenting thing. However, I believe that children do well if they have strong relationships with their caregivers, skills, and self-regulation to do so. Yes, 3-year-olds are working on individuation, but that doesn’t mean they have the skills to do it well! As parents, we can provide them with support and guidance as they work through this developmental phase.

]]> By: KM https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-23210 Wed, 14 Sep 2016 00:23:31 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-23210 I would not let the parent of the 3 year old beat themselves up about something the child is “missing” or that there’s something they are not providing. Three year olds are defiant and like to do there own things because they are working on some separation-individuation at this time. Normal child development, that is exhausting for parents to get through!

]]> By: Nicole Schwarz https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-20900 Wed, 13 Apr 2016 00:58:39 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-20900 In reply to Makayla.

Hi! Thanks for writing. That can be so discouraging! It seems like there may be something missing. Listening and hugs are great, but she may need more from you – teaching, direction, boundaries, choices, etc. Without knowing more about the situation, I cannot give specific advice, but I’d love to talk with you and come up with a solution. Learn more about Parent Coaching.

]]> By: Makayla https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-20873 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 16:23:28 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-20873 I have a 3yr old who is defiant snd refuses to listen to me or her dad i have tried getting down to her level listening to her give her hugs and we feel there is no end in sight

]]> By: Nicole Schwarz https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-20097 Wed, 03 Feb 2016 19:03:24 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-20097 In reply to Mimi.

First of all…I say hug and kiss them even if it’s not “cool” 🙂

Maybe you don’t hug, but you can still get on her level. Sit beside her, lay on the bed next to her, without necessarily making physical contact. Your calm presence and your willingness to slow down and just “be” with her – even through the big emotions – speaks volumes, even if she never admits it.

]]> By: Mimi https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-20093 Wed, 03 Feb 2016 15:09:37 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-20093 I love this too! But, what do you do with a pre-teen who is at the stage where they don’t want hugs and kisses bc it’s not “cool”!

Thanks!
Mimi

]]> By: Nicole Schwarz https://imperfectfamilies.com/the-day-i-forgot-how-to-parent-and-the-two-words-that-brought-me-back/#comment-18852 Fri, 11 Dec 2015 14:08:35 +0000 http://imperfectfamilies.com/?p=3109#comment-18852 In reply to Jeniece.

That’s a great tip! I love how you even reflect on it later and go back and apologize.

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