To say that it's been a long day would be putting it mildly. The power-struggles have been endless. The whining has been constant. And, of course, there was the "I'm-not-leaving-the-store-without-a-toy" meltdown in aisle 9. No matter what you do, it seems that your child's main goal is to make your day miserable. And it's … [Read more...]
How to Help Your Aggressive Toddler or Preschooler
At preschool pickup, the teacher pulls you aside. She has some concerns about your child's behavior. She reminds you that there is a zero tolerance policy for biting and aggressive acts like kicking and hitting may result in suspension. You're a little shocked to hear the news, but you know what she's talking about. There are times when he … [Read more...]
How to Be a Flexible Parent
Heading out the door to school, I noticed my daughter didn't have her backpack. Rather than have her dawdle in the house, I volunteered to go in and get it. As I was returning to the car, I stopped, "What am I doing? How will she ever learn to remember her backpack if I rescue her like this? She's supposed to be responsible for her own … [Read more...]
3 Things to Do Before Giving a Consequence
Your son walks in with muddy shoes. You say, "Please take your shoes off by the door!" He refuses. You ask again. He continues to walk through the room getting mud everywhere. Feeling angry and frantic, you search for some leverage, something to get him to respond to your request. Spying his Halloween candy on the table you shout, … [Read more...]
How to stop tantrums according to brain research
Use the latest brain research to help your child stay calm and manage their big feelings without a huge meltdown. Learn how to stop tantrums - even if they've already started - with this 2-step approach! We're leaving the zoo. The car is parked at the far end of the lot. It's going to be a trek and my 3 kids are already tired. My … [Read more...]
Teaching Your Child to Respectfully Disagree
"This is so unfair!" Your daughter screams. Feeling frustrated, you respond, "Life's not fair, get used to it." She runs to her room and slams the door. Leaving yet another disagreement unresolved. Not to mention, everyone is feeling tense and disconnected. You encourage your kids to be independent, critical thinkers. You want them to … [Read more...]
Why Isn’t This Working? Encouragement for Exhausted Parents
"We tried ___, it didn't work." Sometimes the blank is filled with a particular parenting method, other times it is filled with a laundry list of strategies. As a therapist and parent coach, this is one of the most common phrases I hear from exhausted parents. But, as a parent myself, I can relate to the frustrations of trying a … [Read more...]
How to empower your kids when they struggle
I don't know about you, but I spend an exhausting amount of time making sure life goes smoothly for my children. I wouldn't call myself a "helicopter parent" necessarily, but I feel better knowing that my kids are more-or-less heading in the right direction. I can hear it in my warnings: "Be careful!" "Slow down, you might … [Read more...]
5 Things to Check Before You Correct a Child
Correcting starts early... "That book's upside down" or "Your shoes are on the wrong feet." As our kids get older, it seems that there are more and more things to correct. "2 plus 3 equals 5, not 6!" "Pour the juice with both hands!" One of our jobs as parents is to guide our children and help them make good … [Read more...]
7 Questions to Ask Your Kids Instead of “Why?”
You walk into your child's room. Toys are EVERYWHERE. Your son forgot the book he needs for his homework...again. Your daughter refuses to go to her school dance. After you bought the dress. A very normal response to these infuriating situations is to ask: "Why?!?!" "Why did you take out every single toy you own?" "Why did you forget your … [Read more...]