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It’s not fair, and that’s ok. Supporting your children when a sibling is struggling.

June 13, 2016 by nicoleschwarz

You know your acting out, melting down child needs your attention, but what about the siblings? How do you support your kids when their siblings struggle with big emotions?

The tantrum has been in full force for at least 20 minutes and it doesn't seem to be slowing down anytime soon. While you're doing your best to manage the situation, you glance over and see two sets of wide eyes peering at you from across the room. You're torn. Obviously, the child who is screaming needs your attention. But what about … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Feelings & Emotions, Parenting is Hard Work, Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Building Relationships, Kids, Siblings, Teens, Toddlers

10 Ways to Reduce Sibling Rivalry in Your Home

April 11, 2016 by nicoleschwarz

Is sibling rivalry driving you nuts? Tired of the arguing? Your response matters. Learn how you may be causing sibling rivalry (and how to stop!)

Your daughter crawls over and takes your son's toy car. He freaks out. Grabbing the car back from the baby. She starts to cry. You swoop in to intervene. Cradling her while you glare at your son, you say, "She's just a baby. She doesn't know better." Setting your daughter on the floor, you grab a few of his cars. Again he … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Communication, Kids & Anger, Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Kids, Power Struggles, Siblings, Teens, Toddlers

Don’t Waste Another Consequence: Discipline Tips that Work

November 9, 2015 by nicoleschwarz

Don't waste a consequence: use these discipline tips that teach and guide your child.

The goody bag is bulging with toys and candy. Your youngest child beams with pride as she displays her loot and gives you a minute-by-minute recap of the "My Little Pony" themed birthday party she just attended. Out of the blue, your son snatches the goody bag and says, "That party was for babies." "It was not!" your daughter defends, … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Building Relationships, Consequences, Kids, Power Struggles, Siblings, Teens, Toddlers

Just Tell Me What to Do: A Guide for Parents

October 12, 2015 by nicoleschwarz

Do you ever wish someone would just tell you how to parent. Tell you how to handle your child's meltdown, what to do when kids don't listen, or when your child is struggling with worry. Here is a resource just for you!

Why do the meltdowns always happen at night? I'm exhausted. I'm off the clock. I'm done with this parenting gig for today. Don't my kids know that? All I want to do is stare mindlessly TV. And I'm not talking about Daniel Tiger or Ninjago. My child is screaming. I know I need to do something, but my mind is blank. I'm about to scream back, … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Positive Parenting Tagged With: Bedtime, Building Relationships, Consequences, Deep Breathing, Encouragement, Picky Eater, Power Struggles, School, Siblings, Stress Relief, Teens, Toddlers

A Surprising Solution to Sibling Fighting

September 21, 2015 by nicoleschwarz

Ignoring and telling your kids to "work it out" is not going to stop the fighting. Use this surprising technique to solve the sibling fighting in your house!

  Your kids are fighting. Again. You can hear them in the living room arguing over the remote. Or the iPad. Or whatever. "Work it out guys!" you yell from the other room. The arguing continues. And in a matter of seconds, you hear screaming. They are obviously not  working it out. In fact, it they never  work it out. Will … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Building Relationships, Consequences, Siblings

9 Communication Tips to End the Grunts, Groans, and Eye-Rolls from Your Kids

February 12, 2014 by nicoleschwarz

Tired of the grunts, groans, eye-rolls, and "I don't knows" when you try to talk with your kids? Try these 9 tips instead.

Do you ever feel like talking to your kids is harder than it has to be? You: "How was school?" Your Child: "Fine." You: "So, what did you do?" Your Child: "Nothing." You: "Come on, I know you did something." Your Child (rolling his eyes): "Come on Mom. Leave me alone." Ugh. Round and round you go, and it always ends the same … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Communication, Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Angry Kids, Anxious Kids, Building Relationships, Kids, Power Struggles, Siblings, Teens, Toddlers

Changing the Definition of “Fair” in Your Family

September 11, 2013 by nicoleschwarz

In our house, fair doesn't mean "equal," fair means "getting what you need." My youngest daughter had access to a cell phone years before our older daughter. Despite the fact that this is potentially "unfair," there was no fighting, no sense of injustice, and no demand for equality. How was that possible? The phone - safeguards in place, … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Feelings & Emotions, Positive Discipline, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Building Relationships, Consequences, Siblings

How to Create A Parenting Mantra

December 12, 2012 by nicoleschwarz

Mom and Daughter on Beach

  It's Tuesday. You pick up the kids from school and receive the typical grunts and groans about their day. Once at home, they meander through the kitchen opening and closing cabinets, complaining about the lack of "good snacks" in the house. Then, the fighting begins. No one wants to share the remote. The arguing gets … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Parenting is Hard Work, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Building Relationships, Kids, Power Struggles, Siblings, Stress Relief, Teens, Toddlers

Beyond “I’m Sorry:” Teach Your Child To Apologize

March 21, 2012 by nicoleschwarz

Instead of forcing your child to say "I'm sorry" help them understand how to make a heartfelt apology.

You heard the smack from the kitchen. Followed by wailing. Entering the room, you demand, "Tell your sister you're sorry." "Soorrry." It reeks with sarcasm. "Say 'sorry' like you mean it," you prompt again. "I'm not sorry!" he yells back. What?! How dare he say that. Teaching your child to apologize. You are probably all too … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Communication, Feelings & Emotions, Positive Parenting Tagged With: Apologizing, Building Relationships, Siblings, Teens, Toddlers

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