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How to stop tantrums according to brain research

Use the latest brain research to help your child stay calm and manage their big feelings without a huge meltdown. Learn how to stop tantrums – even if they’ve already started – with this 2-step approach! We’re leaving the zoo.  The car is parked at the far end of the

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Can you relate to these 10 things that impact your parenting? Here are some tips for managing these stressors and having more good parenting days!

10 Things That Impact Your Parenting (That Have Nothing to do With Your Kids)

  When we’re feeling good, we can usually handle minor bumps in our day without much trouble. Someone spills a glass of milk and we respond by saying, “Oops, let’s get that cleaned up” instead of  yelling, “Why can’t you be more careful!?” Unfortunately, we don’t often sit back and

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7 Questions to Ask Your Kids Instead of “Why?”

      You walk into your child’s room.  Toys are EVERYWHERE.     Your son forgot the book he needs for his homework…again.   Your daughter refuses to go to her school dance. After you bought the dress.   A very normal response to these infuriating situations is to

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Changing the Definition of “Fair” in Your Family

In our house, fair doesn’t mean “equal,” fair means “getting what you need.” My youngest daughter had access to a cell phone years before our older daughter. Despite the fact that this is potentially “unfair,” there was no fighting, no sense of injustice, and no demand for equality. How was

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Get your kids to listen using this simple tip

Do you feel like your kids never listen? They tune you out, ignore your requests, and respond disrespectfully? It’s time to try something new. It may seem counter-productive, but it may be the key to getting a reply from your children. Instead of talking more…try talking less. Imagine being questioned,

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Say this, Not that: A Parent’s Guide

  Are you tired of being ignored? Feeling frustrated that your kids respond to you with grunts and “I don’t know?” Sometimes, the way we phrase things can make a big difference.  It’s not always easy to remember what to say or how to say it, especially when your child

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Anger is a Feeling Too!

Many parents try to send their children the message, “Whatever emotion you feel is ok.” However, when their child expresses anger, parents often send a different message – anger is NOT ok. “Stop that!   Calm down! That’s enough!” We don’t mean to send our kids mixed messages. Unfortunately, anger

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Protecting our kids is a good thing -- to a point -- but sometimes it keeps them from learning valuable skills. And that's why I let my toddler use a knife.

Why I Let My Toddler Use a Knife

As a parent, “caution” is my middle name. I am concerned about my children’s safety and do what I can to keep them out of harm’s way. That being said, I also believe that children should be exposed to certain experiences in order to keep them safe. That’s why I introduced

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Welcome to Imperfect Families! Hi! Thank you for stopping by. I’m Nicole Schwarz, MA, LMFT, Parent Coach and owner of Imperfect Families.com. I am a mom to 3 kids, which means I am going through the same struggles you are…sibling rivalry, jealousy, anger, aggression, school challenges, friend drama, power struggles

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